Igrot Kodesh · Letter 1578 — Faith & Bitachon

By the grace of Hashem,

24 Iyar 5712,

Brooklyn,

Greetings and blessings,

I have indeed received your letter of 5/13, in which you ask for advice, on behalf of your son, regarding the shidduch* being proposed to him. Indeed, it is not certain that the parents of this young woman will be able to assist him financially in any substantial way.

Here is my opinion. You tell me that she possesses qualities suited to your son. That is the essential point of this proposal. And Hashem will help them to provide for their needs. No doubt the parents on both sides will assist them, at least at first. Moreover, you tell me that the parents of this young woman own a factory.

You also write to me that Rav … must surely bear a grudge against you, for his daughter had been considered for your son. I do not know what to answer on this question, since I do not know the details, and in particular to what extent there had been a commitment in the matter. If your son did not meet this young woman and you had not formalized anything, there is no reason to take it into account. By contrast, if your son committed himself toward her, he must ask her forgiveness. No doubt you will write to me with more details on this point.

When I find myself at the tziyun* of my father-in-law, the Rebbe, I will mention your name, that of your wife, and that of your son, for the satisfaction of each one's needs.

I wish you a joyous festival of Shavuos*.

N.B.: No doubt you read Tehillim* each day, and you study a passage of the Chumash*. Your wife herself gives tzedakah* for Rabbi Meir Baal HaNess each time she lights the candles, on the eve of Shabbos and the festivals, as I have already written to you in my previous letters.