Igrot Kodesh · Letter 1705 — Faith & Bitachon

By the grace of Hashem,

13 Tammuz 5712,

Brooklyn,

I bless and greet you,

I duly received your letter of 22/7, in which you describe to me your situation regarding everything connected with Yiddishkeit*. You specify that you are not sure of taking a firm resolution[1] inasmuch as you do not know what will come about[2].

I would like to point out to you, as I showed in my letter of 3 Tammuz, what is well established—namely, the fact that a person's situation depends in great part upon herself. As regards what concerns you more particularly, I have already written you that by taking the firm and sincere decision to have a Jewish home, to keep taharas hamishpachah*, to have a kosher kitchen, to keep Shabbos, by affirming that it could not be otherwise, you will most quickly find the one who is to be your husband.

Moreover, you will thereby bring it about that the one who will be your husband also fulfill these mitzvos*, or that you will be able to convince him to do so. Conversely, the fact of not taking a firm resolution in this matter weakens the realization of what has just been said—namely, both the possibility of finding a husband and his fitness with what has just been defined.

Your excuses for not taking this good decision have no place, for all this concerns you personally, more than any other person in the world. But it is regrettable and painful to note that you have the possibility of making your situation evolve positively, and that you do not seize it with both hands.

I well understand that logic does not allow one to grasp the consequence that your decision can have in the two areas mentioned above. But upon reflection, one perceives that logic gives access to only a small part of the world, while for the major part of what constitutes it, one must rely on Hashem.

I express the wish that Hashem will suggest to you the good idea of effectively taking this decision, which is good for you, materially and spiritually.

With my blessing,

[1] To put into practice all the mitzvos of the Torah.
[2] What will be the level of religious practice of the one she marries.